I just listened to a "Better Than Happy" podcast by Jody Moore titled "
Strong Convictions Loosely Held." I have only listened to about 30 episodes over the past 2.5 years, but I have benefited so much from them - along with many of her free webinars. I take copious notes each time. I wanted to save the notes I took today in a place where I could easily access them. The ideas in brackets are my own thoughts.
- Doing something wrong might make us feel guilty. That can easily slide into shame, which is thinking you're wrong about doing something wrong. The truth is, we're going to do it wrong about half of the time as humans and that's okay because it's one of the best ways to learn how to do things better.
- What if you're still just as worthy and lovable as if you had done it right? Justifying means you are trying to convince yourself it wasn't wrong. Using it as information to move forward and still love yourself just as much is a better overall approach.
- The founding fathers of our nation were inspired by God, but they still had some beliefs about several groups of humans (who were not straight white men) that were wrong. We don't need to judge them for being wrong, though. They were doing the best they could with what they knew. [Life is much more nuanced] than our [black and white, all or nothing thinking] brains want to believe.
- What if it's not wrong to be wrong? We all have blind spots and don't know some truths yet. And that's okay. We will continue to learn more if we stay open to different thoughts and we don't quit trying.
- Putting someone up on a pedestal is problematic because pedestals tend to fall over very easily.
- When you make peace with yourself and others about doing it wrong roughly half of the time, then you're free to love people unconditionally! You can just drop the judgement and move on.
- When you come out of the judgement fog, you can realize that it's not wrong to be wrong. It's just human. We are all just good humans trying to figure life out.
- If you beat yourself up because you think that will teach you or compensate for being wrong, you're just wrong about doing that.
- Instead, be okay with being wrong. It doesn't serve you or anyone else that was hurt by what you did. It just lets you decide what you will do next.
- Be willing to always consider that you could be wrong. Ask people to tell you more about why they think about something differently than you. Be open to learning and progressing from that space of humility.
- When someone criticizes you and you feel the resistance rising up, you can just look at your brain and notice how fascinating it is that you're making it mean that you're wrong (or that there is something wrong with you for being wrong).
- The best way to decide is to become more still and look closely at who I want to be and what my priorities are. Then decide whether or not something needs to change next time from a space of internal, inspired motivation.
- We can thank people for their opinion and we can stay open to consider that we may be wrong. As humans, we naturally place people in a narrative and that's okay.
- I choose to believe in [priesthood authority, keys, and ordinances which are found in] my religion. No one can show me anything that will change that. I could be wrong, but I choose to believe that it's right. It serves me well to believe it. [It's the same with whether my marriage will last for eternity or other important things in my life.]
- Loosen up your grip on being wrong a little and watch how peaceful your life becomes.
