Chapter 2: A Formula for Balance

* I spent several hours this afternoon working on the content of this chapter. I'm posting what I've written so far - which basically ended up being several rearranged quotes.

An excellent formula for living a balanced life is found in the New Testament. Luke 2:52 succinctly explains, “And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favour with God and man.” Even in His youth, Jesus was an example of a balanced person. For many years, I have appreciated how this verse clearly describes the four main areas of our lives. “Wisdom” represents the mental or emotional aspects of our lives. “Stature” represents the physical aspect of our lives. “In favor with God” represents the spiritual aspect of our lives. “In favor with man” represents the social aspect of our lives. Recently, this verse has become the theme for the children and youth program of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. This program uses the phrase “areas of growth” to encourage regular goal setting and balanced personal growth.

In 2015, I gave a lesson to the women in our church congregation using parts of a talk by Jörg Klebingat. He discusses several ways to create more balance in our lives with the focus on increasing spiritual confidence. First, the growth and development of “wisdom.” He counsels, “Accept trials, setbacks, and ‘surprises’ as part of your mortal experience. Remember that you are here to be proved and tested, ‘to see if [you] will do all things whatsoever the Lord [your] God shall command [you]’ (Abraham 3:25)…. Some trials come through your own disobedience or negligence. Other trials come because of the negligence of others or simply because this is a fallen world. When these trials come, the adversary’s minions begin broadcasting that you did something wrong, that this is a punishment, a sign that Heavenly Father does not love you. Ignore that! Instead… partner with Him to endure well to the end. Spiritual confidence increases when you accept that ‘often trials and tribulations are allowed to come into [your life] because of what [you] are doing right’” (“Approaching the Throne of God with Confidence,” Ensign, Nov. 2014).

Second, the growth and development of “stature.” Elder Klebingat counsels, “Take responsibility for your own physical well-being. Your soul consists of your body and spirit (see D&C 88:15). Feeding the spirit while neglecting the body, which is a temple, usually leads to … lowered self-esteem.” He continues, “If you are out of shape, if you are uncomfortable in your own body… please use good judgment in what and especially how much you eat, and regularly give your body the exercise it needs and deserves” (“Approaching the Throne of God with Confidence,” Ensign, Nov. 2014).

As a person who struggles with eating a healthy diet, I have learned to “make the better of the bad choices,” as a first step toward making good choices in what I eat. For example, instead of eating actual chocolate, I often eat chocolate covered protein bars or drink a chocolate protein shake. Instead of eating ice cream, I may eat frozen yogurt topped with fruit or a bowl of Frosted Mini Wheats with 1% milk. I've also learned to make a good choice when I'm still struggling to make an optimal choice. For example, I don't like the taste of water, so I choose to drink Strawberry Kiwi Propel instead. That is probably a better choice than carbonated, caffeinated soda (although I'm still missing the pure benefits of water). I feel that it's better to head in the general direction of eating well, than to just give up on healthy eating entirely. I struggle with exercising too, so I choose to just “move my body more.” For me, one of the best ways to do that is to walk as often as I can in the sunshine and fresh air. Elder Klebingat concludes, “Spiritual confidence increases when your spirit, with the help of the Savior, is truly in charge of your natural man or woman” (“Approaching the Throne of God with Confidence,” Ensign, Nov. 2014).

Third, growing and developing “in favor with God.” Elder Klebingat counsels, “Take responsibility for your own spiritual well-being…. Voluntarily and joyfully repent of sins, both small and great, in real time by applying the Atonement of Jesus Christ…. Acknowledge that you cannot love God without also loving His commandments…. Truly [strive] for the right reasons, to live a consecrated life in spite of your imperfections!” Fourth, growing and developing in “favor with man.” He counsels, “Don’t hold grudges, don’t be easily offended, forgive and forget quickly.... Spiritual confidence increases when you know that the Lord knows that you bear no ill feelings toward another soul” (“Approaching the Throne of God with Confidence,” Ensign, Nov. 2014).